9th day - New Project

6th day....50 Ways to Get Over Failure

A man I heard about once failed completely at two different businesses and had his girlfriend die before the age of thirty. He went on in the next decade to get into politics, where he was defeated not once, but twice, in both the Congressional and Senatorial races. He became depressed, moody, and his friends began to worry about him. Yet at the age of 51, that man was elected as President of the United States. His name was Abraham Lincoln.
This is but one of many examples of individuals who manage to go through a crushing series of defeats in life and come out on top with ongoing persistence. You can do the same, with only a few tips to keep in mind. Staying busy and helping others is a great way to start the healing process to empower yourself, with these 50 ways to overcome failure, whether it be great or small.

50 Ways to Get Over Failure

1. Get away from it all and take a vacation, if only to the next town.
A change of scene works wonders, taking you away from the scene of your alleged failure and giving you the time to recharge your batteries, so to speak.
2. Write down and update lists of your short and long-term goals alike.
I always try to have a few different lists going at the same time, be they literal or solely in my head. Staying organized and keeping your eyes on the prize is the best way to keep moving forward at a constant rate.
3. Face the truth.
If a situation is not working, have the strength to move on. It’s all too easy to make excuses for a situation that simply isn’t right.
4. Get a haircut or new style to represent the overall changes in your life.
A small makeover can make you feel like a completely new person and give a much-needed confidence boost.
5. Go through your wardrobe and throw out anything that is outdated or shabby.
Remove those old clothes that are doing you no favors. Get something that match your new hairstyle.
6. Make daily to-do lists and stick to them, even with the smallest of tasks.
7. Clean and organize your house and workspace.
It doesn’t need to be springtime to give the house a thorough going-over. You may be surprised to discover how much clutter you have in there that is unnecessary. This helps give the feeling of a fresh start, as well.
8. Always expect success in your future endeavors.
The power of positive thinking cannot be emphasized enough. As Willie Nelson once stated, “Once you replace your negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
9. Get involved in community groups.
Getting out there and getting to know the neighbors as well as giving back to the community can help spark a new way to move on from the defeats of the past and move forward into the success of the future.
10. Start exercising regularly with an activity you enjoy.
For me, this is soccer and golf. For my girlfriend, it’s yoga. A friend of mine prefers log rolling. Whatever floats your boat, as long as it’s active, will help not only your physical but mental states.
11. Undergo a detoxification or cleansing program to give your body a rest.
A poor diet can literally be weighing you down, so giving your body a break will boost your energy and clear your head for the tasks ahead.
12. Work dancing into your weekly routine.
Music is what ties us all together and this can work wonders on your mood, as well as serving as an exercise to keep you in the present and away from the past.
13. Focus solely on the present and realize that the past is over.
See the above. Aside from music, other ways people manage to do this is try focused meditations that keep you squarely in the here and now.
14. Reestablish contact with relatives you haven’t seen in a while.
By focusing on others that you may have lost touch with, you will be reconnected to your roots. And maybe Grandpa has some stories about his youth that will remind you of your own situation.
15. Chat up strangers and listen to new stories for inspiration.
Be open to small talk. Sometimes you can be surprised where it leads. Everyone has his or her own interesting story, so being receptive to hearing it can be fuel for your own fire.
16. Go out and experience live music.
More than just a diversion, this can help you see life in a whole new way. It doesn’t have to be the symphony. Even a punk band can give you an outlet to burn off excess negative energy.
17. Take a career test for inspiration on how to move forward with new possibilities.
If you feel at a loss, take one of those tests that are given to high school students, to maybe learn about new skills you forgot that you had.
18. Call friends who live at a distance and catch up on old times.
With my own friends scattered across the world from Melbourne to Berlin, sometimes having a good catch-up day can give you some inspiration and help relieve stress. Modern technology such as Skype makes it easier than ever before to stay in touch. Plus, this might get you an invitation to take a vacation down the road.
19. Learn a new language or technical skill.
This helps sharpen the mind and improve concentration, plus makes you more marketable in the future when searching for new opportunities.
20. Throw a dinner party for a mixed group of friends with varied interests.
Put together a well-crafted guest list of people who don’t necessarily know each other that well but have interests that could be complimentary to each other, for stimulating conversation.
21. Drink champagne in the park with a friend.
Sometimes taking a day out and just enjoying someone’s company with a celebration just for the heck of it is necessary.
22. Always speak with honesty, so that you can stand confidently behind your words.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. This will help build your credibility and reputation that are critical in achieving success.
23. Try a new cuisine.
Life is all about experience. Give Ethiopian or Vietnamese food, and maybe you’ll be uncovering the next hot trend in world cuisine.
24. Work at least 15 minutes in every day for breathing exercise, meditation, or yoga to reduce stress.
Stress is one of the modern killers that keep us wrapped up in failure. After my business plans all fell through, I found myself forgetting to simply breathe sometimes. Taking the conscious time out of your day to simply breathe can be a huge boost to energy levels and competency.
25. Adopt a pet or volunteer at an animal rescue shelter.
Pets have been shown to also reduce stress levels.
26. Stay properly hydrated with 6-8 glasses of water per day, for an instant energy boost.
Many people forget to drink enough water. Even though it seems like a no-brainer, it really does have a huge effect on your overall wellbeing. Your body can’t operate without water.
27. Dabble in a vintage art form such as ceramics or crocheting.
For kitsch value and a new form of stress relief, take up an old-school craft form.
28. Browse in used bookstores for new intellectual ideas and join a book group to discuss them.
Browsing through books of authors you’ve never heard of can open you up to new ideas. Book of the month clubs can spark intriguing discussion and open you up to new ideas.
29. Join a language exchange program to meet new people from different backgrounds.
Share your language with someone who is new to the country, and in return learn a new language yourself, all over a cup of coffee.
30. Write down a list of 10 things you most appreciate about yourself.
It’s easy to forget after a setback how great you are. This is a way to remind yourself.
31. Make yourself upbeat music mixes to listen to when getting ready for the day.
Dance around the room too, if you feel like it. Who cares who is watching?
32. Forgive yourself for past failures by writing yourself a letter or saying it out loud if necessary.
Forgiveness is important. Remember what Oprah Winfrey once said: “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.”
33. Take yourself on a date.
This is just a way of getting yourself out there and taking the time to appreciate what you have to offer. Buy a gift. Take yourself to a movie.
34. Volunteer within the community or abroad.
Giving back to the world at large helps you see that your personal failure is not that big of a deal in the larger scheme of things.
35. Go on a retreat.
This can be a good way to feel revitalized after a demoralized period.
36. Make sure you are being proactive every day towards achieving your goals.
Stick to those to-do lists, and don’t let yourself take days or weeks off, as that can lead to lethargy.
37. Incorporate feng shui into your interior decoration.
This can have a big impact on energy levels in the room.
38. Go to a comedy show or learn some new jokes yourself.
39. Move to a location that is near the beach.
Studies show that those living near the ocean have a higher level of satisfaction in their personal and professional lives.
40. Give yourself rewards for meeting each smaller goal on the road to your larger goals.
41. Read biographies of people that you admire.
Figure how they did it, and also be reminded that everyone goes through periods of failure. There is not one person who goes through life without it.
42. Dress in power colors and styles that make you feel good.
43. Lend a helping hand whenever possible to others.
44. Realize the best way to learn is through mistakes and setbacks.
45. Keep an upbeat attitude throughout hardships.
46. Be there as a rock for others in need.
47. Smile as often as possible.
The world will smile back at you.
48. Tackle something you have always been afraid of.
I am terrified of heights, but the day I went bungee jumping stands out as one of the best days of my life and helped remind me that I am capable of anything.
49. Laugh in the face of defeat.
50. Remember that it’s OK to feel sad, but try to turn that around.
There is a time for grieving, and a time for forgiveness. Take those defeats, learn from your mistakes, and never look back after the lesson has been absorbed.

 

5th day

“Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air, but only for one second without hope”

3rd and 4th day

3rd Days

Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, “Kenalilah Allah pada saat kemudahan niscaya Allah akan mengenalimu pada saat kesempitan.”

 

 4th Days

Ramuan Kebahagiaan:

Dalam sebuah hadits yang diriwayatkan oleh a-Tirmidziy Rasulullah bersabda: “Barangsiapa tidur dengan tenang di tempat tidurnya, sehat badannya, memiliki jatah makanan untuk hari itu maka seakan-akan dia telah...mendapatkan dunia dan semua kenikmatannya.”

 

2nd days

1st day : Lari pagi dan Random writting

30 days Challenge

Bulan suci Ramadhan telah berlalu, Idul Fitri pun telah kita rayakan,sungguh terlalu banyak hikmah dan inspirasi yg bisa kita raih selama 1 bulan berjuang menahan lapar dan dahaga serta hawa nafsu. Ada satu hal yg menggugah hati saya, well 30 hari itu ternyata bisa mengubah banyak ya…..

Coba saja tengok, masjid yg tadinya sepi selama 30 hari tiba-tiba semua orang berkerumun shalat berjama’ah di masjid

Lihat juga bagaimana tiba-tiba banyak orang saling mengingatkan ketika ada yang mau menggosip,” sttttt.... ini kan bulan puasa !! batal lho puasanya… “

Juga tidak sedikit dari kita yang tekun bangun sahur, bayangkan Jam 3 pagi dah bangun untuk makan sahur…wah kalo hari biasanya mah

belum tentu, udah gitu lanjut lagi shalat shubuh berjama’ah di masjid…mantabs…

Bayangkan dalam satu bulan dengan serta merta begitu banyak orang ikut larut dalam perubahan lewat ibadah-ibadah di bulan Ramadhan.

Saya yakin pasti ada banyak hal yg bisa kita raih dari hikmah ini, salah satunya adalah mengubah banyak kebiasaan-kebiasaan kita.

Karena manusia adalah mahluk kebiasaan...lihat saja negeri kita yang punya kebiasaan "jam karet", seharusnya setelah puasa kebiasaan itu bisa hilang ya..but kenapa masih terulang terus? karena nggak di ambil tuh makna pembiasaan disiplin pada saat puasa.

Hanya saja saya cuma bisa berdecak kagum, "Subhanallah, ini luar biasa!!"

Insya Allah saya akan terus cari ilmunya tentang hal ini...

BTW Coba saja ini..

Ingin mengurangi berat badan, kenapa nggak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari hanya memakan menu-menu sehat dan banyak berolah raga

Ingin penghasilan tambahan, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk memberanikan diri memulai sebuah bisnis sampingan

Ingin mendapatkan lebih banyak pelanggan, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk mendisiplinkan diri bertemu 1 pelanggan setiap hari, maka dalam 1 bulan bisa ketemu 30 pelanggan, lha kalau ada 2% saja pelanggan baru bisa mendongkrak penghasilan bisnis anda

Ingin bangun lebih pagi, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk menyetel alarm anda sesuai dengan target anda

Ingin menulis buku, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk menulis 4 halaman perhari, maka dalam sebulan dapat menulis 120 halaman, (wah dah jadi tuh satu buku)

Ingin mendapatkan kerja, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk membuat lamaran 1 hari 2 lamaran kerja, maka dalam sebulan dapat 60 kesempatan kerja

Ingin mendapatkan jodoh, kenapa tidak coba bikin tantangan dalam 30 hari untuk berkenalan dengan orang baru setiap hari 1 orang, suit suit..mudah-mudahan ada yang nyangkut…hehehehe

Sebut saja hal-hal yang ingin anda coba, ingin anda ubah, ingin anda capai…….

But Untuk bisa berhasil menguji tantangan ini, kita harus punya target dulu, harus juga terencana, apa yang ingin dicapai.

Sama seperti puasa yang targetnya adalah TAKWA, maka apapun challenge kita juga harus mempunyai Ultimate Target

Saya sedang mencobanya, ada yang mau ikut?

MZ Omar

http://m-zulpakaromar.blogspot.com

Sumber:

http://writetodone.com/2009/10/22/how-to-write-a-novel-in-30-days/

http://www.first30days.com/

http://30mosques.com/



Sorryman RETURN

How to pray to Allah

Inspirasi Pagi

Banyak orang mencari bahagia di "Luar", padahal ketika keletihan mendera dan diri ini di"paksa" beristirahat, ternyata bahagia sudah built in di "dalam"...(inspirasi pagi)

T for Success

Teratur
Terencana
Terpercaya
Tertulis
Terlaksana
Terdefinisi

Bahagia or Sengsara itu adalah pilihan

Hidup itu sebenarnya sederhana nggak rumit, hanya saja manusia itu entah karena terlalu banyak yg dikerjakan sehingga masuk berbagai macam pemikiran. Bahayanya lagi pemikiran itu masuk ke otak seperti angin masuk ke dalam tubuh (masuk angin), tanpa ada early warning tiba2 kita sudah masuk angin.

Lingkungan kita yg sudah hiruk pikuk ini membuat kita sulit untuk berfikir jernih. Kalo keadaan berjalan sesuai dengan maunya kita maka mudah saja kita memberikan cap itulah BAHAGIA, lalu kalo tiba2 berbagai macam kerumitan yang tidak sesuai dengan maunya kita dengan mudahnya kita stempel dengan label hidupku SENGSARA.

Sayangnya mayoritas manusia sekarang ini hanya mensyaratkan BAHAGIA atau SENGSARA dengan banyak atau sedikitnya harta. Seakan kalo lebih banyak harta maka kebahagiaan sudah pasti diraihnya, dan orang yang sedikit hartanya dijamin adalah orang yang Sengsara.

MEmang betul hidup itu harus produktif, menghasilkan dan berkarya sebagaimana Allah SWT Berfirman "Sungguh usahamu memang beraneka macam" (QS 92:4), artinya Allah SWT sudah menyiapkan bagi kita berbagai bentuk usaha untuk mencari nafkah. Ada yg menjadi petani, pedagang, karyawan, pengusaha, pejabat, dll-nya

Nah di ayat selanjutnya Allah memberikan guidance tentang Bahagia or Sengsara...kalo mau bahagia lihat Firman Allah SWT:
"Maka barangsiapa memberikan (hartanya di jalan Allah) dan bertakwa. Dan membenarkan (adanya pahala) yang terbaik (surga). Maka akan Kami mudahkan baginya jalan menuju kemudahan (KEBAHAGIAAN) (QS 92: 5-7)

but kalo mau sengsara lihat juga firman Allah SWT:
"Dan adapun orang yang kikir dan merasa dirinya cukup (tidak perlu pertolongan Allah). Serta mendustakan (pahala) yang terbaik, maka akan kami mudahkan baginya jalan menuju kesukaran (KESENGSARAAN). Dan hartanya tidak bermanfaat baginya apabila dia telah binasa. (QS 92 8:11)

Wallahu A'lam bishowab

Kebiasaan

Alhamdulillah kita diberikan bulan Ramadhan oleh Allah SWT yang begitu banyak kebaikan didalamnya.

Salah satu yang bisa kita raih dibulan ini adalah kesempatan utk menata ulang kebiasaan-kebiasaan kita.

Salah satu kutipan yang saya suka adalah:
Sangat mudah menentukan nasib seseorang hanya dengan melihat kebiasaannya. Jika terbiasa melakukan keburukan maka bersiap meraih keburukan, namun jika kebaikan yang menjadi kebiasaan maka bersiaplah meraih berbagai nikmat.

1. Bangun Sahur.
2. Shalat Berjamaah
3. Berdzikir dan berdoa
4. Zakat dan Sedekah
5. Berakhlak Mulia
6. Membaca Al-Qur'an
7. Mencintai Masjid
8.Menuntut Ilmu
9. Mengatur Keuangan

The Magical Power of Focus

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” - Qui-Gon to Anakin, Star Wars Episode I



Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter.

The quote above, as cheesy as George Lucas’ writing often is, contains a nugget of Jedi wisdom that I’ve repeatedly found to be true.



Your focus determines your reality.



It’s something we don’t think about much of the time, but give it some consideration now:



If you wake up in the morning and think about the miserable things you need to do later in the day, you’ll have a miserable day. If you wake up and focus instead on what a wonderful gift your life is, you’ll have a great day.

If we let our attention jump from one thing to another, we will have a busy, fractured and probably unproductive day. If we focus entirely on one job, we may lose ourselves in that job, and it will not only be the most productive thing we do all day, but it’ll be very enjoyable.

If we focus on being tired and wanting to veg out in front of the TV, we will get a lot of television watching done. If, however, we focus on being healthy and fit, we will become healthy and fit through exercise and good eating.

This may seem simplistic, but it’s completely true. This is the magical power of focus.



Let’s look at some of the ways you can use focus to improve different aspects of your life.



“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” - Buddha



Focus on a Goal

In my experience, focus is the most important determination of whether you’ll achieve a goal or stick to creating a new habit. Not self-discipline, not rewards, not sheer willpower, not even motivation (also an important ingredient, however). If you can maintain your focus on a goal or habit, you will more often than not achieve that goal or create that habit.



If you can’t maintain your focus, you won’t achieve the goal, unless it’s such an easy goal that it would have happened anyway. It’s that simple.



Why does focus matter so much? Let’s say you decide you want to declutter your house — that’s your goal for this month. So the first day, you’re completely focused on this goal, and you get boxes and trash bags and fill them up with junk. The second day, you’re still focused, and you fill up a bunch more boxes and you’ve cleared most of two rooms with progress on another. This goes on for a few more days, with your focus being on this goal, and lots of progress made.



However, let’s say that a week into your decluttering, you decide you want to become a runner. You are now focused on running, and not only do you go out to jog for a few days, you buy running clothes and a Nike-equipped iPod and read running blogs and magazines. However, you’ve lost your focus on decluttering, and soon you aren’t doing much of it, because your focus is on running. In fact, you’ve added more clutter because you’ve bought all the running equipment and magazines and books.



Meanwhile, I have maintained my focus on decluttering the entire month, and by the end of the month, I have a nice, simplified house. I did it through focus.



This is why I am constantly advocating focusing on only one goal at a time. Having multiple goals spreads out your focus, and makes it less likely that you’ll complete any of the goals. It’s possible, but with a diffused focus, it’s much more difficult.



Even with only one goal, maintaining focus can be difficult. You need to find ways to keep your focus on that goal. Some good examples that work for me:



Read about your goal as much as possible, on websites and blogs and in books and magazines.

Post up reminders on your wall, refrigerator, and computer desktop.

Send yourself reminders using an online calendar or reminder service.

Tell as many people as possible about it, and post your progress on your blog.

Have a time each day to work on the goal, with a reminder in your schedule each day.

Maintain your focus on your goal, and you’ve won half the battle in achieving it.



Focus on Now

I’ve written about this before, but focusing on the present can do a lot for you. It helps reduce stress, it helps you enjoy life to the fullest, and it can increase your effectiveness.



Focusing on now, rather than the past (“I can’t believe she said that to me!”) or the future (“what am I going to say in the darn meeting today?”) isn’t easy, and takes a lot of practice. I won’t go into this much here, but read more:



A Simple Guide to Being Present for the Overworked and Overwhelmed

5 Inspirations for Being in the Moment

Practical Tips to Practice Being Present

Focus on the Task at Hand

Have you ever completely lost yourself in a task, so that the world around you disappears? You lose track of time and are completely caught up in what you’re doing. That’s the popular concept of Flow, and it’s an important ingredient to finding happiness.



Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge.



How do you get into flow? Well, it takes a bit of practice, but the first step is to find work that you’re passionate about. Seriously — this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you’re passionate about. Turn off the TV — this is the opposite of flow — and get outside and do something that truly engages you.



Next, you need to clear away distractions and focus completely on the task you set before yourself. This is the part that takes a lot of practice. I’ll write more about this later.



Focus on the Positive

One of the key skills I’ve learned is how to be aware of my negative thoughts, and to replace them with positive thoughts. I learned this through quitting smoking and running — there are many times when you feel like giving up, and if you don’t catch these negative thoughts in time, they’ll fester and grow until you actually do give up.



Instead, learn to focus on the positive. Think about how great you feel. Think about how other people have done this, and so can you. Think about how good it will feel when you accomplish what you’re trying to do.



Also learn to see the positive in just about any situation. This results in happiness, in my experience, as you don’t focus on the bad parts of your life, but on the good things. Be thankful for what you’ve been given. More here.



What are your thoughts on focus? Share in the comments.



“We are what we think; as we desire so do we become! By our thoughts, desires, and habits, we either ascend to the full divine dignity of our nature, or we descend to suffer and learn.” – J. Todd Ferrier

Peluang Baru

Trust itu yg mahal!!! dalam perjalanan membangun bisnis, satu hal yg musti kita perhatikan adalah trust customer terhadap perusahaan kita.

Membuat mereka nyaman akhirnya akan mengantarkan kita pada repeat order..salah satunya gambar berikut:
Fabrikasi Cover Barrel utk mesin

Tantangan buat tim kami untuk dapat membuatnya....Small order but Big effect....

Semangat!!!

Ramoz Brothers Project

Diawali dengan sedikit kekecewaan, karena sebenarnya tim kami sudah membuatkan draft SPK (Surat Perintah Kerja) kepada pihak Owner dan sudah di paraf, tapi ternyata Allah menentukan lain. Proyek renovasi rumah kost2an tersebut di batalkan, karena ternyata owner punya prefrensi lain. Saya dan tim hanya bisa pasrah dan tawakal kepada Allah. Pasti Allah punya rencana yg lebih baik.

Ternyata selang tidak begitu lama, ada seorang sahabat lama, sahabat di masa kuliah dulu mengirim pesan ke facebook-ku, alhamdulillah ternyata ter-konversi menjadi order renovasi rumahnya. Jadilah ini proyek pertama buat Ramoz Brothers Construction

Kebiasaan kita

Kehidupan akan selalu memberikan hasil/ganjaran dari apa-apa yang Anda kerjakan!!. Kenyataannya kalau anda terus menerus mengerjakan segalanya dengan cara tertentu/sama, maka hasilnya bisa diramalkan.
Kebiasaan-kebiasaan jelek melahirkan ganjaran yg jelek. Kebiasaan-kebiasaan baik akan menciptakan imbalan yg baik.

Manusia adalah mahluk kebiasaan

2:286

Allah SWT berfirman: Laa yukallifullohu nafsan illa wus 'ahaa...(Qs 2: 286). Kalo dipandang dari sudut positif, ayat ini sungguh luar biasa, karena menganjurkan kita untuk menjadi pribadi yg semakin kuat!!! semakin kuat diri kita semakin besar amanah yg diberikan Allah..sayangnya masih banyak yg melihat dari bebannya, ...bukan bagaimana menyiapkan dirinya menanggung lebih besar beban

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Thank You ALlah.....